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Tuesday, January 4, 2011

"My hands are made to hold you tight, my legs are made to help you sit while I stand, my lips are made to kiss you and my heart is made to beat for you." -Shyam Sundar

Such a simple gesture can mean so much to someone. It is more than just a symbol of commitment to a partner; it represents dedication, love, strength, hope, friendship, belief, eternity, goodbye.

Holding hands is something that you never really give a second thought to. As a child you hold your parent's to cross the street, when you get a little older its what you do to signify a relationship, and unfortunately many are faced with holding the hand of a loved one when they pass. So why do we never really consider what we mean by holding hands? Think about the last time you held someone's hand...what did you feel? What were you hoping they would feel?

During the early stages of dating there is such a build up to getting the person you are interested in to hold your hand. At a date at the movies, you both sit nervously in your chairs, both of your arms crossed across the front of your body in order to not accidentally touch the other person. But pay attention to what happens through out the movie. Slowly, your hands find a way to dangle off your knee or the arm rest between you. And not only does your hand dangle, no-no, it dangles very close to the other persons hand, sometimes you find that your pinkey even needs to stretch 40 times in a row. Now if the person feels the same way about you, they'll pick up on the hand signals (no pun intended) and slightly side there fingers in between yours. At that moment there isn't a greater feeling...its as if your hands were meant for each other....the entire movie theater could be blowing up final destination style and you would never even notice.

During a person's last few breaths, its hard to be a constant support. You normally can't lay beside them like you want to because the beds are so small, you can't hug them because they are so fragile, there are no words to express your feelings and unconquerable love you feel, so you grab their hand...and there is always a slight warmth coming from it, a heat that can't be explained, only experienced. For that person, to fragile to tell you how much they love you and how much better you made their life, a slight squeeze says it all.

These moments are made by the simplest gesture, yet we walk through life focused on the big displays. There is nothing that can change how important holding someones hand is...how important having your hand held is. Take the time to appreciate the little things. Realize the power of simplicity.

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